This is a bit off-topic, but I had to report this conversation as it has been disturbing me for the past 24 hours. It took place inside my booth at the Dupont Circle FreshFarm Market yesterday morning as I stood at my table fielding gardening questions and signing up subscribers. A few youngish gentleman began to gather in the booth and stood just one foot behind me talking about the usual Sunday morning matters. I ignored them wondering a bit why they could not move their group elsewhere, but not minding enough to ask them to leave as this "guest-at-market" booth spot is clearly a gathering spot for pre- and post-market socializing. Than my ears pricked up when I heard, "Yeah, there is just no glamour here. That is the difference between girls here and in New York." The others concurred -- shaking their heads in disappointment and scanning the surrounding crowds in obvious disdain. I whipped around then and gave them "the Look" that said stop now or fear for your lives - yet the conversation continued! They said, "You know this city is filled with the high school valedictorians, while New York has the girls voted "most popular." They sighed at their lack of fortune at this local dating pool then mercifully moved on.
I'm not saying they are wrong, per se. There IS a difference not just in the girls' attitudes and fashions here, but also in the boys as well. When I go to concerts or clubbing in New York or Philly, there is a big difference in the number of eligible, attractive young men to choose from. Yet, when you actually get a chance to chat with them, you get the immediate impression that the pretty gift wrap contains an empty box. Still I was annoyed at many levels later on when I got home and had time to mull this conversation over.
First, these are the types of thoughts you share in private, on a blog rant, or keep to yourself. You do not have them within earshot or in the personal space of the subjects of your talk.
Second, why is glamorous better or more valued than being ultra-smart? No, they did not actually say DC girls are "ugly," but it was definitely the implication that they are generally dowdy and drab. Should we be spending more time dolling ourselves up early on a Sunday morning to make a quick dash to the local farmer's market? Is this really how we should be spending our busy lives - preoccupied with how we look at every second of the day? I'd personally rather have those smart girls devoting their downtime thoughts to how we can solve world hunger and global warming than to what high heels will hurt the least and look the best on their five block walk to the market and back.
Third, is it really right to judge all DC females by the selection at this time and location? I'm thinking these young men need to broaden out from a known gay-neighborhood. And the timing is not really optimal. Normally, I'd be in church -- where the fashions are more on the dressy side and we are all a bit more groomed for the day -- therefore, perhaps a bit easier on the eyes than those who just rolled out of bed, grabbed a basket, and headed over for some cucumbers and peaches.
I'm curious to here other's takes on this -- should I have been offended by this chat? Is it normal guy talk? Do you agree with their assessment of the local scene?